I Like What I Like

 

I started reading again perhaps two years ago, as I wanted to become more eloquent in the way that I spoke and wrote.

I found that I was really into self-help books, life stories & also a bit of fiction to escape reality and unleash my imagination to endless possibilities.

People don’t always quite understand how I’m that girl who loves intellect but will also watch trash TV. When in fact, it’s for the exact same reason. It allows me to escape reality.

When we look into this common word “Reality”, what does it really mean? In actuality according to the English dictionary, it is defined as “the state of things as they actually exist, as opposed to an idealistic or notional idea of them” ok cool, makes sense. Then I thought let me check Urban Dictionary and see how the younger generation describe it and I came across the below.

“That which is manufactured by the media, by governments, by big corporations, and by religious and political groups to distort people’s views of things and events.”  

They couldn’t be more contradictory.

Now if you were to ask me? I wouldn’t be able to give a straight answer because my reality is completely different to yours. It is subject to your own individuality.

As you grow up you start to see the world from another perspective. Nothing is as black and white as it seems. This post was sparked by some recent conversations I’ve been having. For instance if the following questions were posed to me back when I was 15 years old then again now 10years later at age 25 – the answers would be completely different. Few examples below:

What’s your type?
15yr Old AJ – (I probably would’ve said a specific race)
25yr Old AJ – No type, I like what I like. As long as I vibe with that person, they have the same energy and is sexually attractive to me.

Do you forgive & forget?
15yr Old AJ – No I will hold a grudge.
25yr Old AJ – Forgive but don’t forget. Just because someone else handled a situation not necessarily the way I would have, doesn’t make it automatically wrong. It’s just not how I would’ve done it. Give chances, people make mistakes but if you keep letting me down then I will eventually distant you.

Does body count matter?
15yr Old AJ – Yes. Whoever sleeps with more than 5 people is a slut.
25yr Old AJ – I only care about mine. I carry certain morals however I cannot judge if somebody wants to have multiple sexual partners. It’s their body. Do you hunny.

Do you want to be rich & famous?
15yr Old AJ – Yes. Of course (so dumb)
25yr Old AJ – Nah not at all, fame can be destructive. I want to be successful. Whether fame comes into it is another story but I’m definitely not striving for it. I find that keeping to myself is less distractive and I can focus on what I need to. Money doesn’t define happiness, I’m ok with being financially comfortable.

Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; a man’s life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions

Where do you want to live when you’re older?
15yr Old AJ – America, that’s where all the opportunities are and it gets hot.
25yr Old AJ – I want to remain in London, the most multi-cultural & least segregated city with so many great things to do.

What do you think about Gay & Transgender people?
15yr Old AJ – It’s wrong (so ignorant)
25yr Old AJ – I don’t totally understand it so I can’t speak on it. From what I’ve seen on documentaries, it seems more of a natural thing than a choice. 

There is no longer a social norm I can identify with, except yes I might choose Heinz ketchup over Asda value (but I promise there’s a taste difference) lol.

I am now in the phase of creating my own norms as opposed to what may be typically socially expected by me. With age comes knowledge (information acquired through experience and education) in my case – my reality. How I’ve lived, what I’ve learned & how I currently live. I look forward to seeing if my answers were to change in the next 10 years time.

Be open to discussion and debates. This is why podcasts are great.

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Life is like a box of chocolates.. but sometimes less sweeter.

GUESS WHO’S BACK, BACK AGAIN, AJ’S BACK, TELL A FRIEND.

Ayeeeee if you didn’t read that first line in Eminem’s voice then we got real issues.

That’s right though, I took a long damn break from here, my last post was in 2016 which is terrible. I apologise ya’ll.

So what have I been doing during all this time? Honestly, life has been crazy. 2017 was undeniably one of the most challenging years for me from some serious lows to some extreme highs. I experienced turbulence as well as memorable exciting moments from personal affairs, health problems to business ventures.  John Lennon had this quote “everything will be ok in the end, if it’s not ok it’s not the end” something I’ve kinda had to keep in mind when things didn’t go the way I planned. There’s nothing wrong with making plans, I mean it’s only natural to set out goals for yourself but what you do need to be prepared for is overcoming obstacles and realising life is so unpredictable.
It’s the unexpected that changes our lives”  

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You know them ones that front and say “I stay winning” yeah na, I’ve definitely had achievements but I’m also brave enough to say I’ve taken a few L’s in the past year. Prideful AJ would’ve never admitted that back in the day but you have to trial and error, it’s the only way you live and you learn.

I’ve met some amazing people that play an integral part of keeping me motivated. They help me elevate by constantly inspiring, encouraging and supporting me. They’re the type of homies you need around. One of my girls praised me and said “I’m really proud of the women you are maturing into” she then checked me and said “what happened to your blog, that was your thing” told her I didn’t have time or that it wasn’t my priority anymore, truth is I was just lazy. I didn’t make time or make it my priority. What a bum mentality.

Right now, it’s a Saturday night, first quiet one I’ve had alone in a while. I have a deadline on Monday so I thought I might as well get some work done. In the background I was listening to Chris Stapleton – Tennessee Whiskey. I couldn’t even concentrate because his voice was giving me shivers. So beautifully soulful. Had it on repeat. Yes hard to believe – I like country music too (didn’t have much choice – I grew up on it because of my dad) so once in a blue moon I might buss a few Kenny Rogers or Dolly Parton here and there.

He performed alongside Justin Timberlake at the BRIT Awards 2018. Forward to 2:10, that’s where the magic begins. Loved it.

Anyways… long story short I saw someone on the TL mention a song from Nipsey Hustle’s debut album Victory Lap so I thought I’d check it out. I switched the music and was like “Ooooooouuu this is very deeeeecent” and immediately started reviewing it in my head.

Lately I haven’t really paid attention to the Hip Hop scene, the last albums I downloaded were Black Panther : The Album by Kendrick Lamar and Tables Turn by Fredo (both dope I must say). All I’d really been in the mood to listen to prior to this was Reggae, I’m talking all the Marleys, Sizzla, Marlon Asher, Buju Banton etc. I’m just out of touch.

I’d like to consider myself someone who’s very attentive to music, I have an eclectic ear and appreciate all sounds. Sometimes I can be into jazzy vibes like FKJ & Masego – Tadow and other times I’m in the mood for female vocals like Mahalia – Sober.

I could’ve written so much about the music that came out last year, It’s too late now but when I think about the albums that dropped from the top of my head:

Ctrl – SZA
4:44 – Jay Z
FR32 – Wretch 32
Laila’s Wisdom – Rapsody
Wamp 2 Dem – Giggs
Stoney Hill – Damian Marley
DAMN – Kendrick Lamar
Sixteen – Donae’o

There’s honestly too many to list.. my point is; it would’ve been great content.

I’m not going to false promise and say that I will continuously write and update the blog regularly because I’m not sure I can commit to it, but I will say that I’ll most certainly try to as frequently as I possibly can, and I won’t hit the pause button for this long again.

I’m in the process of finishing Richard Branson’s autobiography Loosing My Virginity (took me ages, it’s as long as the last Harry Potter mate). One thing I notice throughout it, is how fearless he is. So admirable. I’m not YET a risk taker like that at all.. but I want to be. He did however heavily influence me, and I’ve now taken things from that book and applied it to my reality (I’ve even proposed something at work which looks prospective) so that’s good.

I mean just look at this…. DONNY IS SICK!

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A few were failures, but majority were successful and now man owns a friggin island.

Remember, It’s okay to be in a state of confusion (I was) which is why I lost my passion to write. Imagine, I even considered seeing a fortune teller to give me some sort or clarity about where my future is heading, but instead I decided to take steps to amplify myself. Read books, watch documentaries, converse with interesting people, take a course, go travelling. There’s so many options available.

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I fail to mention the most important aspect in all of this. God. He’s got your back. Show your gratitude daily, even if it’s in your own way and not conventional. What is meant to be, will be. Trust and believe.

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“Make moves for those of you not born with a silver spoon”

Firstly, I want to start this with my deepest condolences to everyone that has lost someone close to them this past week. It seems as though there has been a series of unfortunate tragedies across the globe. My prayers go out to the lives lost in the Orlando Shootings at Pulse Nightclub, The Voice USA former contestant; Christina Grimmie and 2 year old; Lane Graves alligator incident at the Walt Disney World Resort. Along with this, the terrorist attack against French police commander and his wife in Paris, and lastly, the most recent with UK Labour politician Jo Cox.

It’s been horrific commuting to work on the tube and reading a new killing in The Metro newspaper every single day, I was on the verge of tears whilst sitting on the Piccadilly line for those 10 minutes. People die all the time and it’s not always in the media, but when it does happen so unexpectedly, it’s important to take time to reflect on your own personal life, because you never know – you could be here one day, and gone the next. Just like that.

With everyone wrapped up in the UEFA Euro 2016 and EU referendum; it’s easy to dismiss how much violence is actually going on out there, it’s pretty scary when you realise how dangerous this world is, yet nevertheless I still believe you shouldn’t live in fear.

Having said this, it feels almost wrong to say that I’m happy (with my life I mean, not the above of course). I woke up this morning and had butterflies in my stomach, not wanting to eat (the same sensation you get when you really like a guy) and if you know me – I’m that slim girl with a fat soul, I ALWAYS WANT TO EAT lol.

It was like a moment of excitement and slight nervousness because I’m overwhelmed with how many opportunities are present to me right now. I completely forgot how much I loved writing whilst in the midst of being so damn busy and working 7 days a week. I barely have time to chill, although as this is my only first day off. I’m making it priority to reflect, and share it with you all.

“This is crazy, I’m on the right track, I’m finally found. You need some soul-searching, the time is now” Nas – One Mic.

I’m not the most eloquent speaker, in fact I’m just a common north London chick and honestly I dig that. I’m cool with not being your perfect stereotypical woman. When I hear tracks like Ray BLK ft. Stormzy – My Hood and how authentic it is, I just feel so incredibly blessed to be that average British person. We all have to work hard to get where we want to be especially coming from not necessarily privileged backgrounds, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t appreciate what we already have.  Home is where the heart is.

P.S I must say overall our music scene at the moment is BANGING. If you’re a reader from abroad, I urge you to invest some time in discovering it (I should probably post a UK Only playlist on here soon and pay homage). Remix She Blogs Hip-Hop lol.

It’s exactly half way through the year, 6 months in and I’ve already accomplished so much and have continuous ideas on how I want to progress. So apart from blogging, I’ve trained in radio presenting, currently marketing in the events industry, bartending, training in photography, will soon be DJ’ing and will also be launching my own project called KJ & AJ with a close friend – I won’t give too much away about that yet.

Whether you believe in horoscopes or not, this was mine today and it is so on point, I’m choosing to.

“Some big element in your life is transitioning Taurus. This could mean big change, and you are not someone who loves change. If you don’t evolve with this transition though, you won’t be able to reap the benefits that come with it. While this change may make you feel frightened, exposed, and uncertain of where you are going, it will eventually bring a sense of closure and a feeling of newfound hope. Be brave, and be open to the many possibilities that are opening up for you.”

It’s amazing how much can change in short amount of time only by altering your mind frame, finding inner-peace and positivity being key. I wouldn’t say I’ve reached my goals, aspirations or dreams but as of now I’m embarking on the journey towards it and for that reason, I’m happy.

I really do believe everything happens for a reason and in within certain timing so be patient, however at same time.. make moves for those of you not born with a silver spoon.

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Beyoncé “Lemonade” (Full Movie)

“When life gives you lemons, Beyoncé gives you life”

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UK Clapback Season – Yungen vs. Chip

Beef amongst North London Chip and South London Yungen.
It’s clear who won this grime battle.

It all started when Chip drew out Yungen with a subtle line in ’96 Bars of Revenge’ in referral to the MOBO Awards where he says:

“Some of your best newcomers ain’t new,
So if you’re gonna nominate Yungen,
Big up, but nominate Sneakbo too”

Then Yungen retaliated in his second verse on ‘Comfy’

Yo, man wanna talk about me at the MOBOs like I ain’t heard it
Man wanna talk about my nomination like I don’t deserve it

Man wanna bring me down, I know man was happy with the verdict

And the rest is pretty much history, see for yourself.

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Chris Brown – Royalty: Album Review

I was super excited for this album to drop when first announced. I’ve always been a Chris Brown fan and the hype for it was so real, I really thought it was going to be masterpiece and go down as a classic. You can see where I’m going with this.. I was wrong and frankly I’m slightly disappointed.

When hit singles Liquor, Zero and Back To Sleep released, everyone screamed YES he’s back with some dope songs for his seventh studio album. It’s not terrible; I just expected some soulful R&B with a couple club anthems not a commercial pop record which it feels like. He spoke in various interviews about taking his time in the studio, creating something great, something personal, and with the album title being named after his daughter – it just didn’t deliver unfortunately.

We all like songs about sex and relationships, its natural but it lacks vision and growth from him as a person, especially after going through so many changes this past year. I wanted to hear so much more, feel more. Don’t get me wrong, Picture Me Rollin, Little Bit, Fine By Me, Blow It In The Wind and couple others will get played on my speakers occasionally but overall it’s not my favourite album out at the moment. If you’re a CB fan like me then it’s worth listening to, just don’t expect to be amazed. Oh and check out all the visuals on YouTube – pretty sick.

Anyways, this is just a slip up – he still remains as one of the biggest male artists right now and I’m sure we have a lot more of his music and creativity to look forward to in the future.

G-Eazy – When It’s Dark Out: Album Review

Firstly, I don’t want to see any Macklemore comparisons because G-Eazy is also a white rapper from the south. There is no comparison; G-Eazy is doper by a long mile. I remember hearing I Mean It (ft. Remo) last year and loving it, in-fact I’m listening it whilst writing this.

I didn’t have any expectations when I decided to listen to the album, because even though I rated him a little, I wasn’t a huge fan although I think he may have just converted me with When It’s Dark Out. I am beyond impressed because it’s an album that I can thoroughly listen to without feeling the need to skip a song which hasn’t happened in a minute. The sound-track features hit singles Me, Myself & I (ft. Bebe Rexha), Random and Drifting (ft. Chris Brown and Tory Lanez) with a video soon to drop.

For a sophomore album, it’s not one to be dismissed. There’s been so much shade thrown but rather than being a hater, take time to listen. Couple of my favourites include Calm Down, Of All Things (ft. Too $hort), Order More (ft. Starrah) and Nothing To Me (ft. Keyshia Cole & E-40).

How much of it is really G-Eazy though? We don’t know. Is everyone going to like it? Probably not but I’m one of the few that do.

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